Managing Conflict
For me Basic Concepts Underlying Conflict is interesting. I have a Relationship conflict with my mother as I would come home late because of hockey matches. My mother does not like me to reach home late example 1030pm. When I was in secondary two I was selected to play for the Singapore Age Group that is Under 18, Hockey Team. Their training would be held at Newton Complex (CCAB) which is extremely far away from my home.
Whenever I reach home at 0930 to 1000pm, my mother thinks that I am playing a fool with my life. She always would nag and scold me. I tried to explain to her as she always assumes that I am mixing around with bad accompany.
This went on for 3 years. There was this day that I asked my mother to come and pick me up as I needed to get home early to complete my homework. My mother asked me for the venue and time so that she would be able to fetch me. I told my mother that I would finish at 9.15pm; her reply was “What around there? Give me a definite answer!” I repeated my answer.
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When I had finished my training my mother was waiting for me. I was extremely scared that she would nag at me as told her I ended at 915pm but eventually the training dragged till 9.35pm. After I packed up to leave, my hockey coach accompanied me to meet my mother.
My coach spoke to my mother about my hockey performance and asked her how I was doing in school. At the end of the conversation my mother thanked my coach for explaining to her what was going on. It was an unforgettable day, as I didn’t get scolding and my mother was very happy for me.
From that day, my mother understands why I come home late and doesn’t question me. I was happy that my mother gave me her support and that gave me confidence. I was able to perform in my games better then before and on some occasions I would invite my mother and sisters to watch my games. And they are happy that I am enjoying myself with my friends. My mother finally knows that I am not mixing with bad company.
I have learnt that communication is important. Because without communication, the other party may assume the worst which may further aggravate the situation or place an unnecessary strain on the relationship.
For me Basic Concepts Underlying Conflict is interesting. I have a Relationship conflict with my mother as I would come home late because of hockey matches. My mother does not like me to reach home late example 1030pm. When I was in secondary two I was selected to play for the Singapore Age Group that is Under 18, Hockey Team. Their training would be held at Newton Complex (CCAB) which is extremely far away from my home.
Whenever I reach home at 0930 to 1000pm, my mother thinks that I am playing a fool with my life. She always would nag and scold me. I tried to explain to her as she always assumes that I am mixing around with bad accompany.
This went on for 3 years. There was this day that I asked my mother to come and pick me up as I needed to get home early to complete my homework. My mother asked me for the venue and time so that she would be able to fetch me. I told my mother that I would finish at 9.15pm; her reply was “What around there? Give me a definite answer!” I repeated my answer.
.
When I had finished my training my mother was waiting for me. I was extremely scared that she would nag at me as told her I ended at 915pm but eventually the training dragged till 9.35pm. After I packed up to leave, my hockey coach accompanied me to meet my mother.
My coach spoke to my mother about my hockey performance and asked her how I was doing in school. At the end of the conversation my mother thanked my coach for explaining to her what was going on. It was an unforgettable day, as I didn’t get scolding and my mother was very happy for me.
From that day, my mother understands why I come home late and doesn’t question me. I was happy that my mother gave me her support and that gave me confidence. I was able to perform in my games better then before and on some occasions I would invite my mother and sisters to watch my games. And they are happy that I am enjoying myself with my friends. My mother finally knows that I am not mixing with bad company.
I have learnt that communication is important. Because without communication, the other party may assume the worst which may further aggravate the situation or place an unnecessary strain on the relationship.
